I have a friend, and eventually I realized that I’m falling for him- slowly, more and more each day. Then I knew he liked me too. :D And he makes me so happy. Now, I’m so in love with him. he makes me feel so wonderful and loved. :) But, I’m not allowed to have a boyfriend yet, and I don’t want him to wait. And I dont want to hurt him and lead him on, plus there are people keeping him down, and I dont want him to suffer. :( . And, I’ve experienced before, having a friend and we ended up being together and when it didnt worked out- even our friendship was lost. I’m scared, that our friendship will eventually be lost too. I love him so much. And I want to be together with him but as much as it hurts, I think keeping him as a friend would last longer, am I still doing right? Or am I not being true to myself anymore? :( and how should I tell him in a way that he won’t misinterpret? In a way that he’ll understand, how much I love him but I think it’s best if we stayed like that, no commitment, in that way no one will get hurt.. right? :( I’m lost, I dont know what’s in my head/heart anymore… help?
This is a very difficult situation.
I think the choice you’ve made is an understandable one, its completely okay to decide that you just want to be friends.
When telling him, be very careful with your choice of words. if he feels the same he’s going to be quite upset. Let him down gently, tell him that as much as you love him a relationship just isnt possible and you’d prefer to be friends.
He’ll most likely be confused and upset, maybe he won’t understand your reasons. But all you can do is explain best you can and try to save the friendship. It is possible however that he may want to distance himself from you to cope with the situation.
I can’t help you out much on this, im sorry:( Its something personal that only you will be able to work out for yourself, but i hope ive helped somehow!