: So, my gf flirts with one of her b friends all the time, they call each other babe, bae, boo, and are always saying they love each other and need each other. I don't think that its appropriate when I'm her gf, for her to always say that to another girl. She says that I have no right to be bothered by it and that this girl is her best friend and they're just friends. She also said she wants to make sure her friend doesn't to over think the relationship based on the flirting, how isn't that wrong?
If this is making you uncomfortable you were right to tell her and although you can’t force her to change how she acts you can certainly ask. If she’s refused to change you then have to decide whether you want to continue the relationship or break up with her. Honestly she could just love her friend as a friend and have that kind of bond ( myself and other people i know have had friends who we acted closer to but never felt anything for) though there is a possibility that she does have stronger feelings. I would suggest sitting down and talking to her properly, discussing how it makes you feel and how she feels etc and go from there :)
Hope i’ve helped,
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: So there is this guy and I don't exactly know if I like him. I don't want to like anyone right now. He is very cute and I am attracted to him and we tease eachother. Then on Sunday we were all out to eat together and he texts me in the middle of dinner for the first time saying ayy. Then we texted the rest of the night and Monday. Then I abruptly said goodbye and he said he would text me and then he didn't. I texted him today but the convo didn't last and idk if I was delusional or he liked me.
try to give it time, if you guys do really like eachother, things will work out and the pieces will be back together(: dont think right at the beginning if you like him or not, cause it could change. stay strong(:
: Hi. I wrote about having medical issues and a friend with mental illness. I wanted to reach out now that I've stabilized, but I just found out it's a degenerative disease. In the past, she seemed almost mad at me for getting sick. Our distance was partly her avoidance and partly my exasperation. Her behavior was extremely out of character throughout our 6yr friendship, so I was hoping to rekindle things. Now I'm afraid of putting this long-term burden on her. I feel terrible staying away though.
Also, to follow up on the last question (on medical issues), Idk how to go about telling any of my friends about my disease. I’m afraid of misjudging who I should tell vs. keep things private with and straining any more of my friendships. And when I do tell whoever I tell, how do I do so in as un-burdensome a way as possible?
Hey, Sorry for the slow reply !
I am sorry to hear it is degenerative and i’m sending good vibes to you and your loved ones, we are always here for you.
I’m sure she isnt mad at you for getting sick, she is probably worried but doesn’t know how to express her feelings properly and mental illness can make people appear selfish. I suppose to decide what you want to do you could try and put yourself in her shoes. If you were her would you want to know whats going on and about an illness your friend has?
You could always give her the option of staying friends of distancing yourself, then its her choice and you can’t feel bad (though you shouldn’t anyway)
For the second part of your ask i tried to use google to find info as i’ve never been in your situation but it wasn’t much help:( I’d suggest starting off with family and your best friends, the people you trust and see often, and then once you have their support chat to them about who else you think you should tell. Having a good support network is always a plus.
I’m sorry i couldn’t be of more help, Good luck :)
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: She's only my friend until someone better comes along, then she shuts me out and gets close with them, then when she falls out with them she comes crawling back to me. It's an endless cycle of me getting hurt but I have no other friends so I have to stay with her no matter how much it's killing me. Please help me. What do I do?
I know this situation can make you feel trapped and like you have to be her friend but if she’s not treating you like one then she doesn’t deserve you. Try putting yourself in situations where you can meet new people and make new friends, starting talking to people you’ve never spoken to before etc. It might feel awkward if you’re not socially confident (majority of people arent and thats fine) but in the long run you’ll feel better :)
: Hi so 2 years ago I had a relationship that was short but very (consensually) physical. In the years after that I've been kissed only twice (both times not of my choosing, they were due to truth or dare) and it's been really not good to be cut off from physical and emotionally-intimate contact. My best friend who hasn't even had her first kiss doesn't understand the whole "longing for emotional and physical closeness" and she gets really irritated about me saying anything about kissing.
I completely understand where you’re coming from and a lot of other people will aswell so you’re not alone in this, nothing quite beats feeling close with someone and when you’re deprived of that you can feel quite down and lonely. Your friend probably doesn’t understand how you feel as much because she hasn’t experienced it yet, how can she miss something she hasn’t experienced?
Perhaps try to branch out? Make new friends and see whether it leads onto anything physical/emotional. You could even join a dating site if thats you’re cup of tea! Remember though that you dont need another person to be happy, being content with being alone is a good thing (IMO).
Hope i’ve helped :)
: Need help snapping out of a mindset where I've been in such a downward spiral, with negative events happening one after another, that when positive things do happen I get anxious/defeatist. I'm constantly on the lookout for some negative detail to unveil itself down the road and devastate me in some way. And when I flat out try to ignore my doubts, it leads to me making rash decisions that end up devastating me anyway. How do I enjoy the positive without being blind to the negative?
Hey there lovely
Feeling like things just keep getting worse and worse is horrible but you don’t have to put up with it, you can change how you think!
Whenever anything bad happens, recognise that its shitty and makes you feel bad, but then remember that bad things happen all the time to everyone and if you let it drag you down then you won’t be able to live life to the fullest. A lot of people live life letting everything get on top of them when they don’t have to. If something bad happens it only means something good is gonna happen aswell, its all about ying and yang :)
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